Thursday, June 7, 2012

regrets

I saw a commercial for a romantic getaway type place and died a little again.  I can't help but think if we had done more of that, spent time together paying attention to each other, none of this would have happened.  Or at least maybe we would have been better armed to get through it.

8 comments:

liv said...

Is it too late? Maybe a weekend away would bring some clarity, some reminder of what you once had. ( ha, ha...I mean a weekend away together - although I'm sure you'd just like to get away by yourself right now too)

Believe me, I know nothing...but..just thinkin'.

Ms. Moon said...

Well, who knows? And I think that you have to WANT that sort of thing to happen, you know. You can't just "work" at it like a job. It's that yearning to go away together, alone, that signifies a relationship which is working, and then the time away helps make it even better.
But. Having said that, I think that a lot of couples don't make it a priority to do that and put it into the category of "someday." Which is not a healthy thing to do.

yo said...

My daughter is going through this now....though it's not a trial, it's just over and I'm heartbroken to see the pain a breakup causes. That alone and broken feeling you think will never go away, there's nothing for it, no cure but time.
Argh, I didn't come to make it worse but to wish you well and remind that you aren't alone.
XX00
yo

Steph(anie) said...

liv - I can't say whether it's too late, but I can say now is not the time.

Ms. Moon - Thank you. I dunno either.

yo - this is more a trial in the sense we're not making anything permanent on paper. But I guess it really is a trial in the sense that I have no idea what will happen in the next few months. As of this week? Not looking so good.

EcoCatLady said...

Just wanted to that I'm thinkin' about you. I wish I had some magic words of wisdom to offer that would make it all better, but in the end I think you just have to muddle through and do the best that you can.

Hang in there and please remember to take care of yourself.

xoxoxo,
Cat

janzi said...

The main thing is not to beat yourself up over and over again... it takes two to tango, and its not all your fault that things have got bad... he has to know of it too... so try and get into looking after yourself and those sweet kids and you know it might all just work out... but even if it doesn't, you have had a really good stab at being married, and been together some time.. Even with children it is possible to grow out of each other, particularly if you married young. The ache will go, but the hole it leaves behind is endless.. but time does numb it.. its all too raw at the moment, but remember, don't beat yourself up and look after you.. that's really important, do not neglect yourself.. your kids need you and you need you too!! love and hugs from across the pond! J

NOLA said...

Totally get what you're saying. And really agree - don't beat yourself up. Hindsight 20/20 and all that.

Kristen Grimes said...

Hugs!!! Hope you survived this very tough weekend...I was thinking of you often!